5 Stages of Starting a Spanish Romance

There’s a reason why many people believe that Spanish is the ‘language of love’, therefore perhaps it´s time that you start speaking it! Imagine you find yourself in a bar or ´discoteca´ (nightclub) and across the room you see a charming stranger. You want to go over and introduce yourself, but you don’t know what to say. Don’t […]

There’s a reason why many people believe that Spanish is the ‘language of love’, therefore perhaps it´s time that you start speaking it! Imagine you find yourself in a bar or ´discoteca´ (nightclub) and across the room you see a charming stranger. You want to go over and introduce yourself, but you don’t know what to say.

Don’t worry – we’ve got you covered; from picking the perfect location, cheesy chat-up lines and even securing a second date. Following these five stages, you may find yourself with a Spanish ‘novio’ or ‘novia’ (´boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’) at the end of the night.


1 – Choosing your setting

When going out in Spain it is important to remember that many of the bars and restaurants you pass initially will be the places that are more ‘turísticos’ (popular with tourists), so a better idea may be to ask a friend or somebody local where the most romantic locations are in Málaga, for example, or try and find some places yourself that are not so central that you like.

Try to picture the evening – what kind of person you want to meet, if you’d like some food as well as drinks and the general mood of the venue. For example, if you want to find somebody your age who likes similar music as you, look for bars or clubs to go to with these kinds of people. Plus – if you find somewhere with good music, you may already have something in common with them!

2 – Getting ready

Before the night even begins, it’s a good idea to learn some quick phrases to introduce yourself. Body language can only say so much! You may seem more attractive to the Spanish person you are trying to flirt with if you can show that you’ve made an effort to try and speak some of the language. A few of the following may be useful for a beginner who wants to learn some Spanish:


• Tell people your name by saying “me llamo” before it. For example: “Me llamo Steve” means “my name is Steve”, or “me llamo Kate” is “my name is Kate”.

 “Soy de –” will mean “I am from –”, so follow it with your country (i.e. “soy de Inglaterra” – “I am from England”).

• To tell somebody your age, you will need to learn the number in Spanish. For example, if you are 24 the number is ‘veinticuatro’ in Spanish. “Tengo ** años” is the phrase you need to pair with it. Overall “tengo veinticuatro años” means “I am twenty-four”.

 “Me gusta” is the way to say you like something. It can be said on its own to mean “I like it” or you can follow the phrase with a word to express that you like that particular thing. “Me gusta leer” is “I like to read”.

Of course, getting ready involves being clean, tidy and presentable! Have a shower, do your hair and wear something nice. To be extra-prepared, you may wish to ask a friend to be your ‘wingman’ for the night!


3 – Opening lines

Everyone has different styles and methodologies when it comes to flirting. Luckily, Spanish enables all types of people ´coquetear’ (‘to flirt’) comfortably in whatever way they wish. If you’re feeling brave and want to try and make them laugh (or at least, provide some entertainment for your wingman), you may wish to try out a more humorous chat-up line:

• “Si la belleza fuera delito, yo te hubiera dado cadena perpetua.”
– “If beauty were a crime, I would sentence you to life in prison.”

• “¿Crees en el amor a primer vista, o debo pasar por delante tuyo otra vez?”
– “Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I pass by you again?”

• “Si besarte fuera becado, caminaría feliz por el infierno.”
– “If kissing you were a crime, I would happily walk through hell.”

• “No hablo español muy bien pero hablo la lenguaje de amor con soltura.”
– “I don´t speak Spanish very well but I am fluent in the language of love.”


Not your style? These phrases would perhaps be more useful if when meeting people you prefer a more direct approach:

  • “¿Qué estás tomando?”– “what are you drinking?”
  • “¿Quieres bailar?” – “do you want to dance?”
  • “Bailas muy bien” – “you dance very well”.
  • “¿Cómo te llamas?” – “What is your name?”
  • “¿De dónde eres?” – “Where are you from?”
  • “Me gusta…” – “I like….”

“tu estilo” – “your style”
“tus ojos” – “your eyes
“tu pelo” – “your hair”


4 – Buying drinks & food

If you want to offer to buy someone ‘una copa’ (a drink) or you are feeling hungry for some tapas, it might impress the other person if you can ask for your own order at the restaurant instead of having them translate for you! Below are some sentences you can use and some examples of drinks and foods you will find in Spain.

• “¿Tienes hambre?” – “Are you hungry?”
• “¿Quieres un cóctel?” – “Do you want a cocktail?”
• Sangria” – a red wine cocktail made with lots of fruit
• Cava” – Spanish equivalent to prosecco, similar to champagne
• Agua de Valencia” – popular drink in Spain made of orange juice, gin, vodka and cava
• Rebujito” – popular in Andalucia, lemon and lime flavours with sherry
• “¿Quieres algo para picar?” – “Do you want something to snack on?”
• Patatas bravas” – cubes of potato with a spicy sauce
• Aceitunas” – olives
• Tortilla de patata” – Spanish omelette made with potatoes and onions
• Chorizo” – spicy Spanish sausage
• Morcilla” – Spanish black pudding
• Perrito caliente” – hot dog
• Ensalada rusa” – a salad with vegetables and mayonnaise

The most popular cocktails such as Mojito, Daiquri etc. tend to have the same or similar names worldwide, but you may find knowing the words for ‘beer’ (‘cerveza’) and ‘wine’ (‘vino’) to be useful.


5 – End of the night

Depending on how the night has been going, you may wish to ask your new friend “¿en tu casa o en la mía?” (“your place or mine?”). However, the situation may just call for a ‘beso’ (kiss) on both cheeks and for you to swiftly say “¡adiós!” One of the following may be more appropriate for your situation:

“¿Me das tu teléfono?” – “will you give me your number?”

• “¿Cuándo te puedo ver otra vez?” – “when can I see you again?”
• “¡Llámame!” – “Call me!”
• “¿Te gustaría tomar un café mañana?” – “Would you like to go for coffee tomorrow?”
• “¿Estarás libre la semana que viene?” – “Will you be free next week?”
• “¿Te apetece ir al cine el domingo?” – “Do you fancy going to the cinema on Sunday?”

Whether you’ve successfully ‘ligado’ (‘pulled’) or not, hopefully it’s still been a fun time. Remember, in Spain the ‘fiestas’ (parties) tend to finish a lot later than most European countries, so prepare to be out until the early hours of the morning!


One of the best ways to learn a language is with the motive of being able to flirt with foreign people. For many singles, the idea of having a partner from a far away land is mysterious and attractive. If you want to learn more, perhaps test your Spanish here on our website with some quizzes or discover the experiences we offer here in Málaga for students of all levels. ¡Buena suerte!

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